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28 Days of Gratitude: Day Six -  Former Friends

11/6/2013

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"Former Friends".  That says it all.  Friends that are no longer friends in your current circle.  Friends though, that had a lot to do with forming who you are.  Friends, who although they are not longer in your life, taught you something about what it meant to be a friend in spite of no longer being your friend.  Former friends.

I am grateful for the friends who no longer are in my life for one reason or another.  I look back and know that I contributed to the end of the relationship.  These are people I spent a lot of time with.  We ran around together to the movies, bowling, plays, just hung out, whatever.  But then something changed.  Something that had been bothering them about me suddenly came to the fore.  It was enough for them to no longer want to be my friend.  It caught me by surprise. I won't say it didn't hurt.  But I also can't say I wasn't guilty of whatever way I had let them down.  Intentional or not, I had not been the friend they wanted.  And obviously they were not the friend I thought they were.

And that's okay.

People grow.  People change.  We evolve.  We get stuck.  But the amazing thing about former friends is just that: they are formers.  They formed a lot of who I am today. They taught me to be more aware of myself and how I come across.  I have to admit that in those relationships I was also guilty of tolerating things that I should not have.  That, too, is another lesson to be learned from former friends.  If something bugs you,  it should be addressed.  Often it hits on a nerve with yourself on something you do like about yourself.  That's a tough one...but an important one.  Awareness is the key.  And the willingness to learn.

That is why I am grateful for my former friends.  They were instrumental in the formation of my character and content today.  And truthfully, I still love them as if we were still close.  And somehow I like to believe, they feel the same.   Just not in the same room.  

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chris
11/6/2013 05:47:04 am

"I've heard it said...people come into our lives for a reason; bringing something they have learned. And we are led to those who help us most to grow, if we let them and help them in return."

Stephen Sondheim, Wicked

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BETTE
11/6/2013 07:28:44 am

AT RCC, BEING AN OLDER STUDENT I BECAME FRIENDS
WITH THE LIBRARIAN AND NOW SHE LIVES IN SEATTLE AND
SHE CALLED TODAY AND IT WAS WONDERFUL TO SHARE
NEWS AND MEMORIES

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